As a counselor, I often get asked, usually after one person has been deeply hurt by another person, “How can I know for sure if I can trust them again?” This is a great question—and a wise one—which, fortunately, comes with a lot of helpful answers. In fact, this is so important that our wellbeing and the quality of our relationships—and any possible reconciliation—depend on knowing and living according to the right answers. Therefore, with so much at stake, we should be relatively thorough in Continue Reading
Love and Discernment: Why We Need Both
Tens of thousands of people recently flocked to the tiny town of Wilmore, Kentucky, which has a population of just 6,000 (and also happens to be the birthplace of my lovely grandmother, Ruth). Why did these crowds come? Because they were told an amazing revival was happening, and they wanted to see and experience it for themselves. Interestingly, the school where this occurred, Asbury University, effectively ended these meetings after a few weeks, at least for outsiders/non-students. Someone Continue Reading
Exposed: The Myth of Chemical Imbalance
Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. Therefore do not be partners with them. (Ephesians 5:6-7) LIFE CHANGING NEWS In a time of nonstop bad news, here's some great news. And we aren't just talking about a tiny glimmer of hope, or a slight silver lining. It is actually astronomical, on many different levels. This new information (which isn’t really new) has the potential to profoundly change the lives of millions of Continue Reading
Understanding Perfectionism
Stand fast therefore in the liberty by which Christ has made us free, and do not be entangled again with a yoke of bondage. (Galatians 5:1) Whoever first said, “Life is hard … and then you die” must have been a perfectionist (or a pessimist, or both). Yes, life can be exceedingly difficult, but—as a former(ish) perfectionist, and after decades of counseling perfectionists—I can attest that perfectionism is almost assuredly the hardest way of life. To put it another way, perfectionism is Continue Reading