For My people have committed two evils: They have forsaken Me, the fountain of living waters, And hewn themselves cisterns—broken cisterns that can hold no water. - Jeremiah 2:13 Over the past 25 years of serving in a biblical counseling and equipping ministry, I've run into a multitude of harmful and false teachings in the Church, as well as in the realm of counseling. However, I have not come across a more destructive teaching among Christians—particularly when it comes to married couples, Continue Reading
13 Traits of Trustworthy People
As a counselor, I often get asked, usually after one person has been deeply hurt by another person, “How can I know for sure if I can trust them again?” This is a great question—and a wise one—which, fortunately, comes with a lot of helpful answers. In fact, this is so important that our wellbeing and the quality of our relationships—and any possible reconciliation—depend on knowing and living according to the right answers. Therefore, with so much at stake, we should be relatively thorough in Continue Reading
One Last Try: Marriage Counseling
THE END OF OUR MARRIAGE? After several years of unhealthy communication, harmful coping, growing resentment and hopelessness, and so much more, our marriage seemed to be over. Pop-psychology and some religious leaders affirmed that it likely was over, that too much damage had been done. At the same time we were continuously told to “trust the process” and “give it time”—and that involuntary separation from each other without guidance could be healthy, even in parental alienation with our Continue Reading
Overwhelmed With Life (Testimony)
Five years ago I walked into Mark’s office. I had been a believer for over 29 years and married 24 years. I knew I needed better counseling from the Word of God. I was feeling so overwhelmed and disappointed by my home circumstances. Yet I also knew God’s Word gives us everything we need for daily living. I needed help! For months, I had been crying myself to sleep every single night. I had been sad for months. Grief had overwhelmed me. Disappointment and death surrounded us. My Continue Reading